Overcoming Premature Ejaculation and Boosting Sexual Endurance

In this sex guide series, we’ll discuss a subject that many men know better than they’d like to. Of course, we’re talking about not being able to maintain the erection. Not everyone who’d like to prolong their pleasure has fallen victim to premature ejaculation dysfunction, but we’ll be sharing some tips on that matter as well. A crucial part of a healthy, blooming relationship is a satisfactory sex life, regardless of how you achieve it. It’s a sensitive subject and a reason for complexes, but remember nobody is perfect and there’s always room for improvement. And improvement is exactly the outcome you can expect after learning all these tips. 

Is it dysfunction or just an inconvenience?

The problem, or the goal, for most men is to increase their sexual endurance. The term sexual endurance refers to the ability to engage in sexual activity for a desired period of time. It’s important to note that every individual is different, and there is no “normal” duration for sex. The key is achieving a level of endurance that satisfies both you and your partner. Premature ejaculation (PE) occurs when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sexual activity. PE is not considered a disease, and there is no physiological function to “fix” or surgery to repair it, since no injury is involved. In extreme cases, like finishing before anything started, a medical attention is necessary. However, nowadays, people use the term premature ejaculation quite loosely, just to describe not being able to last for a satisfactory amount of time. Don’t let anyone put you down like that, remember that everyone’s different. If you didn’t notice any sudden changes in your sexual endurance, you’re most likely healthy and instead of pills, you just need to talk to your significant other.

What causes it?

The main culprit behind premature ejaculation is you, or to be more precise — your mind. It’s not always the case, but in most cases the roots lie in psychological issues. Understanding the causes of PE is crucial for effectively managing and treating it. Look through this list and try to narrow it down. 

• Bad habits — early sexual encounters, especially those involving rushed or secretive sexual activities, can set a pattern of quick ejaculation. These experiences may create a cycle of anxiety and the feeling of being hurried during the intercourse.

• Self-defense mechanism — men who have experienced sexual abuse might develop PE as a response to trauma. 

• Anxiety and stress — anxiety, particularly performance anxiety, is a significant factor in premature ejaculation. Stress from other areas of life can also impact sexual performance, making it difficult to focus and relax during sex.
• Depression — mental health conditions like depression and a poor body image can affect confidence and therefore lead to premature ejaculation. Feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, and a negative perception of one’s body can all play a role.
• Relationship problems — issues within a relationship, such as lack of intimacy, communication problems, or unresolved conflicts, can lead to PE. These problems might not only cause stress but also reduce comfort and confidence during sexual activities. 

These causes lead to sexual endurance issues, however usually, it doesn’t go far enough to classify as a treatable dysfunction. If your performance suddenly dropped, it’s best to contact a doctor, since there can also be physical problems that lead to PE. Among those are hormonal imbalance, infections and erectile dysfunction

Tips

As aforementioned, premature ejaculation is most commonly caused by mental issues that should be solved first to overcome it. However, if your concern is just about your sexual endurance, there are some tips and tricks that can help you. 

• Stop-and-Start Technique – Stay involved in usual sexual activity until you feel like you’re on the verge of ejaculation. Then, immediately stop and try to mentally focus on something different to allow the sexual excitement to calm down, you can talk or take care of your partner’s needs. Stopping and starting intercourse every couple of minutes will naturally “train” your sexual endurance. Some people use that time for oral sex, others prep for different kinky practises, like bondage, anal sex, role play or electrostimulation. As long as you can keep your arousal at bay!
• Squeeze it – Start normal sexual activity until the feeling of near ejaculation. Then grab the head of the penis and gently squeeze the area where the glans joins the shaft. This should reduce the erection quickly and allow the excitement to decline.
• Second time’s the charm – Ejaculate once through intercourse or masturbation about an hour before the next attempt at sexual activities.
• Changing Sexual Positions – Experiment with different sexual positions to find those that provide less stimulation and help delay ejaculation. You can also try different, more intimate, practices, like tantric sex.

What to do instead

In case, regardless of what you do, your partner is still dissatisfied, use different activities to help keep your spark alive. You can try to incorporate some kinks, like bondage, electrostimulation or just indulge in oral pleasures. In the beginning we mentioned that a great sex life is a vital part of a relationship; however, it’s not the only important part. One of the most fundamental aspects of maintaining a healthy sexual relationship is open communication. Discuss your desires, fantasies, and any concerns you have with your partner. This can help in understanding each other’s needs and finding common ground. Some couples don’t indulge in penetrative intercourse at all, and they’re happy with that choice. Every person is different, and we all have different needs. The key is to clearly communicate it with your significant other. Remember, emotional intimacy is just as important as physical. Spend quality time together, have deep conversations, and show appreciation for each other. Emotional closeness can enhance sexual satisfaction and reduce feelings of dissatisfaction, even if they’re validated. 

Conclusion

Premature ejaculation is a common issue that many men face, and it can impact both partners’ satisfaction and emotional well-being. Understanding the possible causes is crucial for addressing the problem, even if it can be challenging. While PE can be distressing, there are numerous strategies and treatments available. Moreover, focusing on emotional intimacy and exploring new activities together can keep the relationship vibrant and satisfying. It’s important to remember that a fulfilling sexual relationship is more than just physical performance; it’s about connection, trust, and mutual satisfaction. By addressing the issue of premature ejaculation together and exploring alternative ways to maintain intimacy, couples can strengthen their bond and improve their overall relationship. Open communication, empathy, and a willingness to seek help when needed are key to overcoming this challenge and building a more fulfilling and satisfying partnership.