Humans get bored, it’s in our nature and there’s not denying it. The first few months or years of a relationship feel like heaven but, after some time, all the cute quirks you used to love about them turn into irritation. If that’s the case with you, this sex guide shall come to the rescue. With this simple tips, you’ll get your sex life back on track, awake your sexuality and your relationship will blossom like never before. Due to the complicated nature of the subject, we split it into two parts. The first one is all about your feelings, since love tends to get a little bleak, the second one is a list of sex tips for couples that lost their attraction along the way.
Loves me, loves me not…
One of the unavoidable repercussions of long term relationships is treating love as daily bread. Do you remember how you felt when you first laid eyes on your partner? Your first time holding hands, your first kiss? If times when just them looking at you was enough to make your blood boil are well past you, these sex guide is for you.
At first, try to spend more times together. Yes, obviously you both have to work, but something as simple as eating one meal daily together can change a lot. If your relationship is long-distance, you can still eat together via a video call. This, at first look, weird practise originated in South Korea, but grew popular due to LDR (long distance relationship).
At this point, you probably know each other well, or even too well, but when was the last time you held a conversation? It doesn’t have to be meaningful, sometimes the silly ones work the best. For example: “Which animal would you like to be and why?”, “If you could visit a film or a book, which one?”, “What superpower would you like to have?” or “Would you rather live in a magical world while being a normal human, or live in a normal world but be magical?”. You can also try doing random quizzes online, play Truth or Dare, Cards Against Humanity, Fuck Marry Kill or Never Have I Ever. Have a laugh together and learn more about each other in the process!
Touch me baby one more time
How well do you know your partner’s body? Maybe it’s time for a refresher? Set the right mood, light some candles, play relaxing music, take out your favourite blanket and call your other half. It’s not about sexual pleasure, but deeper physical connection. Dim the lights, get naked and start on exploring. Try to look at them like it’s your first meeting, trace every curve and scar with your fingers tips, then repeat with your lips and tongue. Go slowly, take your time and remember all your partner’s reaction, it’s all about getting to know them.
The last resort, and the one that will surely make you fall in love again, is… cuddling. Best option would be to do this naked, but try to keep your arousal at bay. As much skin contact for as long as possible is the remedy for all troubles, starting with a bad mood, ending with depression and marriage issues. You can cuddle in a spoon position, or have one of you get into a half-lying position and the other use them as their backrest, exchanging roles from time to time. Also, normalize skin contact in your daily life. Whenever you’re passing them, gently brush against them, and grab their hand whenever you can. In case you’re in LDR and you cannot do any of that, retort to stacks of pictures and text messages like “I want to be in your arms now.”. For couples that see each other on a daily basis, non-verbal communication is an easier way, but LDR couples have to learn to be more vocal.
As you can see, it’s easy to grow love where it has once blossomed. Don’t turn your back on your partner, and learn to cherish each day with them. Even if your sex life is still satisfactory, remember that intimacy is not only that. Being physically naked with your partner is just as important as being emotionally bare, but the second one is much harder to accomplish and maintain. This concludes this part of our sex guide, stay tuned for the next one!