Playing with toys together
Last week we tiptoed into the glittering world of women’s toys. Today we widen the circle. This one is about what you can enjoy as a pair. Some things are playful, some daring, some that might just spark a laugh before they spark anything else. The only rule: both of you should be in the mood for it. And gentlemen, don’t feel left behind — there’s a guide especially for you waiting next week. Exploring together often begins alone. Toys for women highlights how self-pleasure can build confidence before sharing that curiosity with a partner.
Why bother stepping into a toy shop?
Toys are simply tools for curiosity. Some make solo moments sweeter, others bring a tired relationship back to life, and a few open doors you didn’t realise were even there. They can shift attention to forgotten places — not just the obvious ones. And yes, for couples who face hurdles such as stress, flagging desire or physical challenges, the right little gadget can feel less like a luxury and more like a solution.
Sometimes toys are just the first step. A couple’s guide to inviting a third partner shows how exploration can grow into something even more adventurous.
Three broad flavours
There are endless designs, of course, but for the sake of friendliness, let’s think in three baskets: playful insertables, external sparks, and the more mischievous, kink-coloured toys.
Penetrative play
Slender or sculptural pieces that can be shared, sometimes even paired with a harness for role reversal games.
Subtle vibrators, from neat little bullets to wearable shapes that can sit quietly alongside intimacy.
Plugs and beads for those who enjoy a different kind of build-up — always chosen with safety bases so nothing wanders too far.
Designs made for deeper massage, crafted with a certain kind of male pleasure in mind, though some couples still experiment together.
Non-penetrative touches
Rings and bands, sometimes with a gentle buzz, that can stretch out the rhythm and make sensation linger.
Teasers that flutter or pulse against outer hotspots, bringing variety without intrusion.
Cups and suckers that focus on nipples or other sensitive places, playful for either partner.
Fetish-leaning mischief
Light clamps, cuffs and blindfolds — a way to dip into restraint without commitment. Many are made to snap open easily, which is useful if nerves catch up.
A collar here, a paddle there — props that shift the mood into role play.
Electro-gadgets and gags do exist, but they demand caution and trust, so they’re better left for couples who already know their signals.
Keeping it safe, keeping it fun
A few golden notes before you run wild. Always choose toys designed for the purpose you’re using them for — especially anything that ventures towards back-door play (those flared bases are there for a reason). Go slowly, check in with each other, and add lube thoughtfully (silicone gel doesn’t always mix well with silicone toys). Most of all: wash your toys every single time. Nothing kills the mood like yesterday’s dust. And for couples who’d like to mix playthings with companionship, toys and tease escorts bring a playful spark to shared discovery.
One last thought
The best toy in the room is still communication. That quick glance, the whispered “yes” or “not yet”. These small signals keep the whole thing from feeling mechanical. The gadgets are just amplifiers. The intimacy, as ever, comes from you.
💌 Sophia Hart’s intimacy note: The moment you both laugh at a toy that didn’t quite work? That’s intimacy too. Don’t take it too seriously.