The secret of hot phone sex – how to talk dirty to women?

The idea of phone sex has been around for ages, and although it sounds like a perfect plan for long distance relationships, it’s not that easy to perform. This article is meant to outline the basics of dirty talk that women enjoy hearing from both men and other females. First time trying to talk out loud, or text, about your fantasies can be hard, even if you’ve been together for a longer time, but it’s definitely worth it. Don’t be afraid to try new things, as they can lead to the most unexpected and great outcomes. The following tips are merely a suggestion, everything depends on your lady’s preferences and how well do you know each other. 

Phone sex vs sexting vs cam sex

For cyber sex, everything comes down to three choices, but all of them depend on your ability to talk seductively. The easiest from the following methods would be cam sex, since the visualisation helps, but your sweetheart will most likely ask for a sext instead. When you’re in a relationship, you might occasionally get a message saying: “tell me something hot”. Most guys reply with a picture instead, and that’s not what your lady meant. She might appreciate it, but women like to feel desired and the better words you choose, the better the results. Once you’ve found the perfect answer, you can ask her to call you, under pretence, to talk about it. Switching to a call early into a sex chat is a great option, unless you’re a shy type. 

Practise, practise, and practise!

When you first get a challenge of making your partner come over phone or text, you might find yourself too stressed to do anything. Dirty talk is hard to master, even harder over the distance. The best way to learn would be to join sex chats and practise with strangers, but that would most likely be considered cheating. Instead, you can try to imagine you’re actually with your lady, close your eyes and just tell her, straight from your heart, what would you want to do to her. The first couple times will seem unnatural, maybe even crazy, gross or awkward, but it’s just one of these things that take time to get used to. With time, you’d know what to say, when and in what way.

Don’t be afraid of your desires – be open and communicative

Whether it’s your partner or a complete stranger, don’t hold yourself back! Talk about anything that gets you going, in the worst case, your preferences will differ. It’s easier to confess things that you’re ashamed of without seeing the other person eye to eye, use the sex chat as an opportunity to open up about your darkest desires. The most important factor of good sex, cyber or not, is to talk and listen to the other involved party. If she asks you a question, answer it before going on with yours. And remember to pay very close attention to what you’ve already been told, because once you stop listening to her fantasy, you’re done, especially if you’re having a longer role play session. 

So, what am I supposed to say?

There are no wrong answers here! Well, unless she asks you if you want her, and you say that what you really want is a Ferrari. Keep your head in the game. All you have to do is remember what your lady likes and do your best to describe it, that’s the whole point of dirty talk. She likes kissing? Don’t tell her “I’m kissing you”, instead elaborate “I slowly lean in and taste your lips, my tongue sliding inside and exploring your hot mouth, while I run my fingers through your hair”. Sounds better? If you’re afraid that you don’t have a way with words, you have to educate yourself and read more erotica, there are no shortcuts there. You can also always ask your sweetheart for cam sex, maybe looking at her will awaken your creativity?

To sum up, dirty talk is not a skill to be learned, it’s already inside you, you just need to help it get out. You know what you want, now you only have to put it into words and gather courage to say it out loud. Phone sex is a great way to enrich your relationship, even if you’re not long distance. For example, you can call your partner on your way to her, and have her all ready and hot for your arrival. If you’re still not sure if cyber sex is for you, keep your eyes peeled for our future posts, where the professionals reveal all the pros and cons of virtual pleasures.

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